The Support System Audit
A practical audit of the spiritual, social and professional support surrounding the responsibility you carry.
Being surrounded by people is not the same as being supported. Some relationships know your role but not your reality. This audit helps you see where support is present, reactive, absent or unsafe—and choose one relationship to engage more deliberately.
Do not wait for a crisis to discover that the structure around your life cannot hold you.
Name the present weight.
Where are you grounded, known and strengthened?
- I have a community that nurtures rather than suppresses my calling.
- I engage this community consistently—not only when things go wrong.
- I have a daily or regular grounding practice of prayer, reflection or Scripture.
- There is someone spiritually mature with whom I can speak honestly.
Who knows the person beneath the work?
- I can name at least three people who know more than my public role.
- I protect time for family or close relationships before only leftovers remain.
- I can ask for practical help without waiting until I am overwhelmed.
- At least one relationship allows joy, play or rest—not only problem-solving.
Who helps you learn, decide and follow through?
- I have a mentor, coach, supervisor or accountability partner suited to my season.
- I create regular time for learning and reflection rather than random consumption.
- I can ask for feedback before a problem becomes a crisis.
- I know where to seek specialised advice when a need exceeds my competence.
Distinguish present, reactive, absent and harmful support.
Reliable
People and practices I can engage consistently and honestly.
Only in crisis
Support exists, but I usually wait too long to use it.
A genuine gap
No suitable relationship or practice currently serves this need.
Needs boundaries
A relationship suppresses, controls, shames or repeatedly makes the load worse.
Turn good intentions into regular contact.
My next seven days
Before __________, I will contact __________ and ask for __________.
A simple prayer, if it serves you
God, give me humility to receive help, courage to tell the truth and wisdom to recognise relationships that strengthen rather than diminish the life You have entrusted.
Reflection has limits.
This guide is for personal formation. It is not a psychological, clinical or prophetic diagnosis. If the exercise brings up trauma, persistent distress, unsafe relationships or concerns about your health, seek appropriate support from a qualified professional and trusted people around you.